Blog every day in May x2: Day 21 and 22

Day 21 prompt: If you could do anything in the world to make a living what would it be?

I would be a full-time writer and churn out novel after novel! Maybe someday. :)

Day 22 prompt: If you could talk to your 13 year old self, what would you say?

I would tell her that while she feels very alone in the world, some day she’ll get out of her small town and find others who share her interests and she won’t feel like such a weirdo! 13 is a tough age for everyone (well, maybe not if you’re a trust fund baby!) and she shouldn’t feel so down about it, because eventually she’ll be an adult and then she can pursue the things she likes in life.

 



Day 21 prompt” A list of links to your favorite posts in your archives 

I’ll try to divvy it up and categorize a bit.

My favorite home/lifestyle posts:

  • My mini deck makeover. I put a lot of work into this and I was proud of it! (link
  • My “30 Before 30” list. It was kind of scary to actually write this out. (link)
  • Quite possibly one of the best desserts ever. (link)


My favorite fashion posts:

  • This orange and green blouse and skirt combo was one of my first forays into really bold color and I’m really happy with this outfit. (link)


My favorite beauty posts:

  • I admit that I don’t wear makeup every day! It was liberating to type it out. (link)
  • This is one of my favorite spring nail colors ever, and my nails actually don’t look too ragged for a change. (link)
  • My favorite makeup wipe. (link)
  • I had fun trying out this indie organic skincare brand, which I actually discovered thanks to one of my readers! (link
  • Yin Yang nail art! (link)
  • In which I explain what cruelty-free really means for makeup lovers. (link)
Day 22 prompt: Rant about something. Get up on your soapbox and tell us how you really feel. (a pet peeve, a current event, a controversial topic, something your husband or roommate or neighbor or boss does that really ticks you off)

Well, let’s jump right in shall we? I can’t stand hypocrites and I can’t stand people who are just plain ignorant. It seems like the two traits often go hand in hand. It’s pretty easy to find and dismiss these traits in someone who doesn’t believe in the same things you do, but when I find people in the causes I support displaying these two traits, it makes me want to rip my hair out. 

For example, I’m big on animal rights and vegetarianism/veganism, but I would be the first to admit that these communities contain lots of very spiteful and unhelpful people. There’s a reason for all those “how do you spot the vegan at a dinner party” jokes–these people do exist, loudly telling everyone around them how disgusting their dinners are and telling anyone who doesn’t use vegan beauty products that they are akin to a rapist or Hitler. These are the people who mock and deride people with severe food allergies and say that they are using their allergies as an excuse to not go 100% vegan, which is a pretty crappy thing to say if you haven’t lived with allergies yourself, methinks!

At the same time, I’ve also seen some of these groups holding up people like Mike Tyson as their vegan “role models”. So to be clear, a former rapist who now eats vegan gets a clean slate, but someone who is allergic to soy and nuts and therefore cannot go 100% vegan is akin to a rapist. There is no logic there to me.

I also understand why so many young women feel such a disconnect from feminism. So many of these so-called “feminists” say they’re all about being equal, but what they really seem to feel is that men are all just stupid dogs who should be shot. That’s not feminism, that’s reverse sexism. They also leave people of color, women of different faiths, and members of the LGBT community on the sidelines.

Then there’s the constant hypocritical reminder that feminism is about being able to do whatever you want with your body and your life, while also telling women all the things they should not do if they want to be a “real” feminist. For example:

  • The backlash against ridiculous beauty ideals has turned into a backlash against women who enjoy wearing makeup or frilly clothing. These “feminists” love to attack women like Zooey Deschanel for not fitting their ideal of what a woman should look like and how she should behave. Wait, why does that sound familiar?
  • Slut shaming has now turned into virgin shaming! Yay!
  • God forbid you decide you want to have kids and stay home with them of your own volition because, you know, a real feminist would be out there earning her own bacon, not putting in 20-hour days every day for 18+ years to raise a human being.
  • Not an atheist? Well, you’re an idiot.

I could go on, but you get the point. Somewhere along the line the drive for equality was hijacked, and feminism is in embarrassing disarray thanks to an army of women who don’t even seem to understand the basic tenets of what they purport to stand for.

Both of these causes are incredibly important to me, but the levels of hypocrisy and non-logic involved can make it really hard for me to identify with either cause. It makes it very hard to reach out to others within these communities and make new friends because you’re trying to figure out whether you believe in the same things or if something really dumb is going to come out of their mouth at any moment. (And yes, I realize this makes me sound like I’m up on my high horse. Oh well, that was the prompt for the day, was it not?)

14 comments / Add your comment below

  1. I too am just shamed by fanatical feminist leanings – its like they just use the word “feminist” to excuse very judgmental and sometimes down right mean behavior. I often end up in conversation with strident “feminists” who after discovering what I do for a living snidely say “oh I don’t wear makeup.” As if I am a whore for doing so… I bit my tounge HARD. Because my retort could have been “Well, I had to PAY for my education and I don’t receive a monthly stipend from my parents so when you grow up maybe you’ll choose to paint your face too.”

    And I think your dream job is Totally realistic – I can’t wait to read what you write :)

    1. It makes me really sad to hear some of the things they say! Like, excuse me, I thought we were all fighting for the right to be individuals and not be judged for it, hmm? :/

      Hopefully this summer I find more time to write. This spring has been hectic! :P

  2. Wow your post about what cruelty-free means was very informational. I learned a lot for it.

    I have no words for your rant, lol. These are the kind of issues you can go on and on and never find a resolution that will make everyone happy.

    1. Glad to be of help :) Yeah, I think that’s why it’s called a “rant”–you don’t really get anywhere with it. I think it’s the nature of mankind to be at odds with one another!

  3. Wow what a post. I’d be a novel writer too! I love writing and that’s probably why it comes so easy to blog for most people like ourselves.

  4. The road to hell is paved with good intentions, right? It is sad how so many things that started out to be positive and make the world a better place have been hijacked by people who have twisted things to fit their own agenda or ideology.
    Lori

  5. I agree, it does not help anybody to tell people that they are horrible for eating meat. I mean, I do think that eating meat is wrong but you won’t bring anybody to think about their eating habits by behaving like an ignorant and arrogant idiot.

    1. It makes me cringe! I think if they explained to people WHY going veggie is so good for them, from an ethics and a health standpoint, they’d be more open-minded. Attacking people just makes them close up and not want to listen! :(

  6. Being a full time writer sounds like so much fun. Hopefully one day you’ll be able to make your dream come true. :-) And I totally agree with your pick for one of your fav spring time nail polishes… that mint looks so pretty on you!

    ~ Yun

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