Thought Questions, day 68: What is the simplest truth you can express in words?

I got these questions from Danielle’s blog Underland to Wonderland, where I came across a post in which she talked about the website Thought Questions and their 365 thought-provoking questions to ask yourself. My friends Katrin, Celeste and Jasmine have also been answering these questions, so be sure to go check out their blogs too!

Day 68: What is the simplest truth you can express in words? That living in the moment is the surest way to make sure your life is happy. Dwelling on the past can leave you filled with “what-ifs” and regrets, and thinking too much about the future only leaves you anxious and can cause you to miss out on all the amazing things life has to offer to you today.

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Thought Questions, day 67: What is the difference between innocence and ignorance?

I got these questions from Danielle’s blog Underland to Wonderland, where I came across a post in which she talked about the website Thought Questions and their 365 thought-provoking questions to ask yourself. My friends Katrin, Celeste and Jasmine have also been answering these questions, so be sure to go check out their blogs too!

Day 67: What is the difference between innocence and ignorance? In the simplest terms, I would say that innocence means you’re unable to know something, while ignorance means you could know but choose not to. So, for example–a young child who doesn’t understand that there are lots of different cultures in the world, all different but none inferior to another, is innocent because they cannot possess that knowledge. Whereas a jingoistic adult is perfectly capable of educating themselves but chooses not to, and is thus guilty of ignorance.

Thought Questions, day 66: Who do you think stands between you and happiness?

I got these questions from Danielle’s blog Underland to Wonderland, where I came across a post in which she talked about the website Thought Questions and their 365 thought-provoking questions to ask yourself. My friends Katrin, Celeste and Jasmine have also been answering these questions, so be sure to go check out their blogs too!

Day 66: Who do you think stands between you and happiness? Oftentimes…myself! I’m my own worst critic and I am working on changing that.

At other times I might choose to point the finger at…

  • the neighbor who woke me up as they spent thirty minutes running a leaf-blower on the street in front of their house in some bizarre attempt to make it very clean. And then swept it. After the street sweeper had already passed. 
  • another neighbor, who decided it would be a good idea to cart their stereo outside and turn on the local rap station full blast. (Spoiler alert: it was a bad idea.)
  • the coworker who constantly plays “pass the buck”. It’s not my favorite game.

Well, you get the idea…there are always people who stand between me and being “happy”, but I’ve begun to realize that even when one is gone, another will replace them! So rather than focus my energy on griping about them, I try to focus on what I can do to change my happiness, and not on the actions of other people, since I can’t control them anyway.

Thought Questions, day 65: What is the difference between falling in love and being in love?

I got these questions from Danielle’s blog Underland to Wonderland, where I came across a post in which she talked about the website Thought Questions and their 365 thought-provoking questions to ask yourself. My friends Katrin, Celeste and Jasmine have also been answering these questions, so be sure to go check out their blogs too!

Day 65: What is the difference between falling in love and being in love? Falling in love is a bundle of feelings and emotions–you get the whole sweaty palms/stomach of butterflies thing. People say that love is like a drug, but I would say falling in love is like a drug–you see everything through a haze and you’re walking on air. At the same time, you’re nervous–it’s like that point on a roller coaster when you’re thrilled to bits but scared to death at the same time.

Being in love, on the other hand, is nothing like a roller coaster. It makes you feel like you’re standing with your feet firmly planted on a rock. Nothing shakes you, nothing moves you. There are times you won’t necessarily be “in love” or like your partner very much, but even when you’re not getting along you know you’d take a bullet for that person and they would do the same for you. There are no doubts or flips in the stomach.

I think it’s human to love the rush of a new romance and I certainly have fond memories of my early days dating my now-husband, but I wouldn’t trade a day of what we have now for a hundred days of that rush. It’s a great feeling, but it’s just not the same as being in love!

This is part of why I don’t believe at love in first sight. You can fall in “love” (or more accurately “like”) at first sight, but you can’t know right away whether you really love someone. That takes so much time and effort to build up. And it doesn’t come easily either; you have to go through a lot of crappy stuff first. It’s not fun at the time but when you come out the other side, your bond is stronger because of it.