• #30before30,  lifestyle

    #30before30: ditching the five (or ten, or twenty) year plan

    "I don't know where I'm going from here but I promise it won't be boring." (David Bowie quote about having a plan)

    Several years ago I wrote a bucket list for my life. It was thirty things I wanted to accomplish before I turned thirty, ranging from personal development to education and career goals. They ranged from getting a degree to learning a new language to traveling to different countries that I’d wanted to visit since I was in high school.

    I don’t remember all the goals on the list, but I do remember that I accomplished almost none of them. When I was twenty-eight, that felt like a failure. After all, conventional wisdom puts a lot of stock in having a five-year plan, going to school, advancing in a career, setting goals for your personal life and checking them off. At twenty-eight I had accomplished none of the major plans I’d set for my twenties, and the things I’d worked at for several years—getting married, putting ten years into moving up the ladder in a career—suddenly dissolved. I hadn’t traveled the world, hadn’t made it to college, and had pretty much shelved art, once my passion, as a dead end.

  • Christmas,  gifts,  holidays

    Gifts for guys under $50

    Disclaimer: this gift guide is based on what I would buy as gifts for guys I know—the things I know they would love and use on a regular basis. However, that’s not to say these are gifts only for guys—they’d work for plenty of girls, too!—and it’s definitely not all-inclusive; it’s just a small sample of things that I think would make great (and affordable gifts) for the guys in your life. Read on for more details and shopping info!

    Gifts for guy under $50

  • lifestyle

    When words fail

    When words fail

    I think that when you write every day, whether for work or for pleasure, there’s a self-imposed pressure to always have the perfect words at hand. Whether for a lover, a friend, or a stranger, to celebrate, comfort, or just mark the passage of time, there’s an expectation that you’ll have the right sentence at the right time to express your feelings.