• #30before30,  health,  lifestyle

    #30before30: surviving vs. thriving: shifting your mindset

    Surviving vs. thriving: shifting your mindset

    I’m cleaning out the old photos on my phone and I stopped on this one from a year ago.

    What a difference a year makes!

    You can tell how burnt out I was by my eyes. I was stuck in a job that I HATED with a passion. (And I no longer feel bad for saying so!)

    And because I was unhappy with the thing that occupied half my waking life, I wasn’t taking the best care of myself. Physically—drinking too much coffee and wine, not eating well, not exercising, not sleeping enough. (And it shows on my face! #glowup) But also mentally and emotionally—neglecting what made me happy and focusing on negativity. I was basically just surviving.

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    #30before30: explore diverse art

    #30before30: explore diverse art
    (photo by Dmitry Ratushny via Unsplash)

    I’m checking in super-late on a Wednesday for a very short #30before30! As I’ve gotten to the end of my twenties I’ve made an effort to explore more diverse art and entertainment options. Books, TV, music, and more—there’s a lot more to be enjoyed than what’s offered through mainstream channels.

    I don’t say that to sound like one of those hipsters ranting about how all mainstream movies or books are trash. But if you never get out to the fringes, you’re going to miss out on a lot of really great items. The fringe is where diverse voices thrive—different cultures, different viewpoints than what you might be used to hearing. This is also where you’ll find the indie artists that lack mainstream exposure, but are no less talented.

    Finally, exploring more diverse art means getting out of your comfort zone. For example, maybe you strictly stick to reading a certain genre of fiction. Try short stories, nonfiction, or just a fiction genre you don’t normally touch. For me, I’m trying to pick up more nonfiction books, since I usually just stick to fiction. I’ve been surprised by the memoirs, essay collections, and historical exposes I’ve enjoyed. (If you have more to recommend, hop over to Goodreads and let me know!)

    You could also try just exploring a different type of art from what you usually enjoy. It could be a gallery show of paintings instead of photography, or a documentary film instead of a written piece. You get the idea.

    Exposing yourself to more diverse art and entertainment doesn’t just keep you from getting bored. It’s also a way to learn more about topics or issues you otherwise might not encounter.

    So with all that in mind, I want your recommendations! I’m open to anything: books, movies, music, any kind of diverse art you think would help me broaden my horizons a little. Leave me a comment and let me know!
  • #30before30,  cooking

    #30before30: learn to cook for yourself already!

    Learn to cook for yourself already!
    (photo by Maarten van den Heuvel via Unsplash)

    This week I’m talking about a #30before30 topic that I actually tackled pretty successfully in my twenties: learning to cook for yo’ damn self! Here’s the thing: cooking at home isn’t just healthier than eating out, it saves you a ton of money. (Essential if you’re trying to save toward a goal like buying a home.) It’s also a fun activity to share with a friend or a partner. Finally, it’s a way to get creative and break out of a rut at home—especially during the bleak winter months, when you’re on your 857th hour of Netflix and are dying for something new to do!

    If your experience with home cooking mostly involves boiling water for boxed mac n cheese, then learning to cook recipes from scratch can be intimidating. But it doesn’t have to be! Here are some of my fave tips and resources for finally learning how to cook for yourself at home.

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    #30before30: thoughts on relationships, flying solo, and everything in between

    #30before30: thoughts on relationships
    (photo by Laura Ockel via Unsplash)

    Since it’s Valentines Day, I thought it was a good time to turn the #30before30 lens on relationships. Flying solo, committed long-term, or somewhere in between: all three stages are tricky.

    I never planned out a fantasy wedding. I’ve always said I’m quite happy going it alone. Yet there’s an incurable romantic in me, and I’ve managed to navigate more than one long-term relationship. Along the way, my understanding of how to successfully survive at every stage from uncoupled to committed has changed.

    Part of this is simple experience—you learn from trial and error what really works. Part of it is simple maturity—I’ve changed drastically over the past decade from a hot-headed kid to a more thoughtful woman (or at least I’d like to think so!). I feel like the past ten years have given me enough material to write volumes about relationships, but for the sake of keeping it to one post, here are some brief thoughts I’d love to share with my younger self…

  • #30before30,  lifestyle

    #30before30: cultivate female friendships

    #30before30: cultivating female friendships
    (photo by Simon Maage via Unsplash)

    Since I fell a little behind in January, I’m doing a double #30before30 post today to catch up! February 13th is unofficially “Galentine’s Day” and tomorrow is V-Day, the holiday everyone loves to hate. I thought this was a great week to talk about a couple of #30before30 topics that I think every twenty-something woman has struggled with at some point: friendships and romantic relationships.

    First, since in honor of Galentine’s, let’s talk BFFs. I feel like keeping up friendships as an adult is kind of hard, compared to when you’re a kid.