• #30before30,  lifestyle

    #30before30: cultivate female friendships

    #30before30: cultivating female friendships
    (photo by Simon Maage via Unsplash)

    Since I fell a little behind in January, I’m doing a double #30before30 post today to catch up! February 13th is unofficially “Galentine’s Day” and tomorrow is V-Day, the holiday everyone loves to hate. I thought this was a great week to talk about a couple of #30before30 topics that I think every twenty-something woman has struggled with at some point: friendships and romantic relationships.

    First, since in honor of Galentine’s, let’s talk BFFs. I feel like keeping up friendships as an adult is kind of hard, compared to when you’re a kid.

  • #30before30,  lifestyle,  money

    #30before30: get smart about money

    #30before30: get smart about money

    Moola, dough, dinero, mammon—whatever you call it, money is a hot topic. Getting my sh*t together financially is definitely at the top of my list of “adulting” things that I wish I’d put more energy into in my twenties!

    Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t do terrible, but there are a lot of thing I only learned later on that would have been much easier if I had known/practiced them earlier! Some of these things only came up for me once I decided I wanted to buy a house in 2017, and trust me, sitting in a realtor’s office looking at paperwork for your dream home is not the place to first realize you need cash assets and a good credit score to make it all come together.

    In no particular order, here are ten tips to help you get smart about money.

  • #30before30,  lifestyle

    #30before30: ditching the five (or ten, or twenty) year plan

    "I don't know where I'm going from here but I promise it won't be boring." (David Bowie quote about having a plan)

    Several years ago I wrote a bucket list for my life. It was thirty things I wanted to accomplish before I turned thirty, ranging from personal development to education and career goals. They ranged from getting a degree to learning a new language to traveling to different countries that I’d wanted to visit since I was in high school.

    I don’t remember all the goals on the list, but I do remember that I accomplished almost none of them. When I was twenty-eight, that felt like a failure. After all, conventional wisdom puts a lot of stock in having a five-year plan, going to school, advancing in a career, setting goals for your personal life and checking them off. At twenty-eight I had accomplished none of the major plans I’d set for my twenties, and the things I’d worked at for several years—getting married, putting ten years into moving up the ladder in a career—suddenly dissolved. I hadn’t traveled the world, hadn’t made it to college, and had pretty much shelved art, once my passion, as a dead end.

  • lifestyle

    When words fail

    When words fail

    I think that when you write every day, whether for work or for pleasure, there’s a self-imposed pressure to always have the perfect words at hand. Whether for a lover, a friend, or a stranger, to celebrate, comfort, or just mark the passage of time, there’s an expectation that you’ll have the right sentence at the right time to express your feelings.

  • lifestyle,  travel

    Perspective

    Perspective

    Our road trip to the Oregon coast was amazing in so many ways (and I’m excited to tell you all about it, in a series of posts starting later this week!), but it didn’t go very smoothly. Less than twenty-four hours in we were stranded on the side of the highway south of Portland. We had left late in the evening after work the day prior, had a rough night in a less than stellar motel, and discovered we’d given the wrong house key to the petsitter; breaking down seemed like the final insult when we’d only just begun our trip. After having the car towed to a local shop my partner and I decided to walk the dog to a local park to blow off some steam.

    I’ll willingly admit I wasn’t in good form that day. I was tired and grouchy, and grumbled to my partner, “I wish we’d never come on this trip.”