Since it’s #selfcaresunday I thought I’d chat about something that’s been on my heart for awhile now. One of the biggest acts of self-care you can commit is to take a hard look at your life and make bold changes as needed. It’s not always as fun or Instagrammable as bubble baths and wine; sometimes it’s hard or even scary. But if you don’t chase what sets you on fire, you’ll never really live.
I’m cleaning out the old photos on my phone and I stopped on this one from a year ago.
What a difference a year makes!
You can tell how burnt out I was by my eyes. I was stuck in a job that I HATED with a passion. (And I no longer feel bad for saying so!)
And because I was unhappy with the thing that occupied half my waking life, I wasn’t taking the best care of myself. Physically—drinking too much coffee and wine, not eating well, not exercising, not sleeping enough. (And it shows on my face! #glowup) But also mentally and emotionally—neglecting what made me happy and focusing on negativity. I was basically just surviving.
Since I fell a little behind in January, I’m doing a double #30before30 post today to catch up! February 13th is unofficially “Galentine’s Day” and tomorrow is V-Day, the holiday everyone loves to hate. I thought this was a great week to talk about a couple of #30before30 topics that I think every twenty-something woman has struggled with at some point: friendships and romantic relationships.
First, since in honor of Galentine’s, let’s talk BFFs. I feel like keeping up friendships as an adult is kind of hard, compared to when you’re a kid.
Moola, dough, dinero, mammon—whatever you call it, money is a hot topic. Getting my sh*t together financially is definitely at the top of my list of “adulting” things that I wish I’d put more energy into in my twenties!
Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t do terrible, but there are a lot of thing I only learned later on that would have been much easier if I had known/practiced them earlier! Some of these things only came up for me once I decided I wanted to buy a house in 2017, and trust me, sitting in a realtor’s office looking at paperwork for your dream home is not the place to first realize you need cash assets and a good credit score to make it all come together.
In no particular order, here are ten tips to help you get smart about money.
Several years ago I wrote a bucket list for my life. It was thirty things I wanted to accomplish before I turned thirty, ranging from personal development to education and career goals. They ranged from getting a degree to learning a new language to traveling to different countries that I’d wanted to visit since I was in high school.
I don’t remember all the goals on the list, but I do remember that I accomplished almost none of them. When I was twenty-eight, that felt like a failure. After all, conventional wisdom puts a lot of stock in having a five-year plan, going to school, advancing in a career, setting goals for your personal life and checking them off. At twenty-eight I had accomplished none of the major plans I’d set for my twenties, and the things I’d worked at for several years—getting married, putting ten years into moving up the ladder in a career—suddenly dissolved. I hadn’t traveled the world, hadn’t made it to college, and had pretty much shelved art, once my passion, as a dead end.