99 questions you should ask yourself: part four

Well, I’ve been quite the failure at BEDN. I meant to blog for the past few days but I’ve had some personal things going on this week and I just drew a blank. I couldn’t think of anything to post. I’m trying to get back into the swing of things this week though.

Today I’m posting part four of the ongoing questions series that my friend Katrin dug up. You can find her answers here. Some of these questions are so strange, so remember she isn’t the one who wrote them! We’re just copying and pasting here! :P

31. What are you not made for?

Athletics. I’m not particularly fast or strong and I’m quite clumsy.

32. What secret would you never want your partner to find out?

It’s not a secret if you tell!!

33. Name three things you don’t want people to know about you.

Um, again, it’s not a secret if you tell! But something I generally don’t admit would be…I miss fish. Bad, bad vegan. When my husband makes tuna sandwiches for work it’s about all I can do to not line up with the cats by his feet!!! I wouldn’t eat it again, but there’s just no vegan substitute for it.

34. Why do you think your friends like you?

I asked my husband this and he said, “Because you’re Rat, and everyone loves Rat because he says what everyone else is already thinking but is afraid to say out loud.” (Rat is a character in a comic strip called Pearls Before Swine. This is a good example of his personality.) Okay, so I am honest and sometimes quite blunt about things, which is a good thing because I’m not two-faced. But I do try to temper it with kindness! I would also like to think that my friends like me because I’m a good listener and because I’m funny. I consider a sense of humor to be a very important asset in a friend.

35. How similar is your Facebook self to your real self?

I don’t use Facebook much anymore, but if anything I’m less brash online because I know that things don’t quite look the same in black and white print as they can sound when told face to face. It’s easy to make a remark and have it totally misinterpreted.

36. What is the most annoying thing about your partner?

I don’t know…I think when we got together we went through the “honeymoon phase” where nothing was annoying, and then we went through a stretch where everything was annoying, and now we’ve just settled around each others quirks to the point where they don’t really matter. The only thing that really truly drives me bonkers is if I’m trying to sleep and he starts talking loudly on XBOX chat with his gamer friends–there’s no way to sleep through that. But I accept that as a peril of being a night owl and sleeping at 4 PM when everyone else is just getting off work and wanting to be social.

37.  Why do you publish things on the Internet?

Because I don’t know a lot of people in RL who share my interests, so blogging is a way to meet others who like the same things I do and make new friends in the process!!

38. Do you have a hobby?

Reading. Also, listening to music and watching movies.

39. What do you search for on youporn?

I don’t. Once again, neither Katrin nor I came up with these questions!!

40. Whose Facebook inbox would you love to read?

My boss’ inbox. I can never pin down her personality and I wonder what she’s like away from the stress of work. I think a look at her personal messages would tell me. How nosy, right?!

Random Thursday: It’s just how I was raised

Random Thursday: It’s just how I was raised

Once again I’m hooking up with Em, Lin and Katrin for Random Thursday, and this week’s topic is a doozy! I think almost all of us have something “weird” in our habits or personalities that is just a by-product of how we were raised. A few of the things about me that are “weird” but seem perfectly normal based on how I was raised…

1. I read. A lot. Thanks to blogging I’ve finally met other book-obsessed who understand this, but in RL I don’t know a lot of avid readers. When I was growing up we rarely watched TV and since we lived in a small town, didn’t go out a lot to events. Also, the winters were rather harsh, so we spent a lot of time inside during those months! My parents made sure we had ready access to the library though, and we grew up reading past our grade levels. It wasn’t until I was a little older that I started to understand why all of this bookwormishness wasn’t “normal” to other people, but as a kid I just felt sorry for people who didn’t read often enough. I guess I thought they couldn’t read very well and they just said they didn’t like reading to cover that fact. Now that I’m an adult I’ve realized that some people just genuinely don’t like reading, but I still feel sorry for them (perhaps even more so).

2. I like healthy food. My parents pushed us to eat vegetables and healthy snacks; things like chips and soda were “treats”, and we rarely ate at restaurants. As an adult, even with a hyperactive sweet tooth, that focus on healthy eating is still drilled into my subconscious. I don’t have a big appetite for packaged junk food; it tastes really strange to me. I count myself lucky that I grew up in a household that served apples instead of chips with our lunches, because it’s made it easier to develop healthy habits as an adult, when there’s no one watching you and forcing you to be good!

3. I’m a budget nut. I credit my Dad for teaching us kids to be responsible with our money, even when we were too young to really understand things like interest rates. I’m sure some people think my habits of budgeting, shopping and saving are really weird, but thanks to those early lessons I’ve managed to stay debt-free as an adult and still have a little extra for a rainy day. When my husband and I first got together he thought it was really strange that I would say I had no money to spend, when he knew very well I had money in the bank. It took him a while to realize that there was a difference between “money to spend” and “money to save indefinitely”. If I don’t have cash on hand for something like clothes or travel, I wait until I do. Sometimes it’s no fun, but it’s kept me out of trouble in the money department!

4. I’m quiet. There are multiple facets to this. One is that we had a very small family, so I wasn’t accustomed to huge groups of relatives and friends milling about. Lots of people and noise is too much for me. Also, my parents more or less expected us to be well-mannered children, and part of that means no running and screaming in public places. We were expected to be quiet, polite and respectful of the people around us. The third thing would be that my dad worked all kinds of crazy shifts while I was growing up, so were expected to be quiet during the day while he slept. As an adult sometimes I have to remind myself to be a little more loud and assertive, especially at work, instead of constantly trying to be quiet and not bother other people by making noise. I think sometimes they forget that I’m there! (Can be good or bad, depending on the circumstances!) Even if I’m home alone, I catch myself trying to shut doors without clicking the latch. Old habits, I guess.

5. I’m a night owl. Like I said, my dad worked every shift in the book, including lots of night shifts. We were homeschooled, so since we were at home during the day while he slept, our schedule inevitably bounced around from a “normal” school schedule so we could work quietly on assignments while he slept or was away and have family time when he was awake. I know a lot of adults frowned on our irregular school schedule, but I’d like to think it’s made me a more flexible adult in the work/sleep/have a life balance. I can shift around pretty easily if I need to because I’ve never really had a set schedule of sleeping and working. Honestly, after so many years on night shift, I really can’t fathom working days again!

6. I grade my life as pass/fail. When I was a kid we got teased for being “weird” because we didn’t go to public school. I guess it was assumed that we weren’t really doing any school work at home. Ha! I don’t remember a lot of the stuff we did but I do remember that my mom wasn’t keen on the whole “A, B, etc.” system of grading–if we didn’t do our work up to a certain standard, we redid it. It was a pass/fail system with no option to fail. It was just expected that we would do extra, read more books, take up extracurricular hobbies (I dabbled in photography), etc. Because I was always expected to do my best as a kid, I’ve always had a certain expectation that I would do my best in the rest of my life, rather than settling for “good enough”. To this day I get teased for taking things too seriously or working too hard but I’ve made a pretty good life for myself and most of the time I manage to get what I want by working hard for it, so I would say that there’s no need to change my methods!!

7. I DIY. Whether it’s fiddling with the car, baking and cooking, sewing clothes, painting furniture–I DIY a lot of things in my daily life. I suppose this part of my childhood came partly from trying to stretch the almighty dollar instead of being wasteful, and partly because my parents wanted us to learn to be resourceful and creative. It worked. I’ve done a lot of DIY as an adult that has saved me money over a professional job and/or given me the satisfaction of having something unique instead of mass-produced.

Overall I think a lot of the “weird” things about how I was raised have made me a better person in the long run. I didn’t have a lot of the normal food, toys or experiences that other kids my age might have had, but I took away a lot of values and lessons that have served me very well as an adult.

What “weird” things about your life are just a part of how you were raised? Tell me in the comments!

Ten on Tuesday: non-Christmas music and other randoms

1. I’m trying very hard to not be tempted by all the big Christmas beauty sales going on. I’ve seen some really good deals from brands like Tarte and Julep but I’m trying to be good and not spend any money on myself right now so I’ll have rainy day money post-holidays.

2. It finally feels like an appropriate time to start thinking about Christmas. Obviously the stores have been ready for Christmas since September, but I don’t really feel ready until a month or so beforehand. Now I’m ready for pine candles, Christmas lights, and all the mint-flavored treats…but no Christmas music yet, please.

3. I’ll keep listening to my regular music until about December 23rd. That is, unless I’m at work, where it will no doubt be forced on me.

4. When I do break out the Christmas music, it will be Enya’s And Winter Came and the Trans-Siberian Orchestra’s Christmas Eve and Other Stories. My husband likes the old Frank Sinatra-type stuff, but I hear enough of that at work!

5. A Dance With Dragons is FINALLY out in paperback. Debating whether to read it now, or wait for the rest of the books so I don’t have another frustrating period of lag between installments.

6. I’ve also got another series from the library that I’m ready to start reading, just as soon as I get a hold of book one. I have books two, three, and four. Go figure.

7. I’m not normally a rap person, but here’s one of my new workout tunes.

8. I totally confess to being challenged in the nail art department, but Amy from Small Budget Beauty posted this water marble tutorial recently and somehow this style finally “clicked” for me. I think I’ll try it for Christmas in red, white and green.

9. This is one of the really soothing songs I’ve had on my playlist recently.

10. And this one.


Recipe Writers link up: November 2013

Recipe Writers link up: November 2013

On the first of every month we will introduce a new theme depending on the month and all share our recipes here. The link party will open on the first of every month and close on the last day. This way you will have time to share a recipe before the holiday (if there is one)  so others can try it, check out other recipes to try yourself or even have time to post one after the actual holiday. For example, this month we are having Thanksgiving favorites and next month will be Christmas related.

I’m excited to get started and try out everyone else’s recipes!

Well, first of all let’s introduce the co-hosts!

Amanda Rose from Sew Much 2 Say

Casey from Bookcasey

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Remember, this link up is open until the end of the month and we will have a new one next month (I’ll give you a hint, next month’s theme is cookie-related!) starting on the 1st of the month.

So what are you waiting for? Make your favorite Thanksgiving recipe, blog about it and share your favorite holiday recipes with us!

Glowy winter makeup (selfie)

Glowy winter makeup (selfie)

Well, I suppose I kind of failed at BEDN–I skipped out yesterday because I was way too tired from work to even check my e-mail, let alone sit down and compose a post. Today’s prompt is supposed to be writing about something outside of your comfort zone, but sadly today I am again drawing a blank on a proper post!

However, I do have something that kind of counts–a selfie from our movie date night last week. I feel weird posting selfies either on the blog or social media, probably just because I am not used to it. So here you go! (Sorry for the grainy quality, I didn’t have time to dig out the real camera for a snapshot.)

It was a chilly, snowy day, so I went with a knit hat and fluffy scarf to keep me warm. To get a low-makeup look that was rosy and bright, I used a tinted moisturizer all over to subtly warm up my skin tone, then used a blend of peach and wine blushes to warm up my cheeks. A generous amount of highlighter on cheek and brow bones and in the inner corner of the eyes adds more glow. I used  waterproof mascara (to avoid smudging in the damp) and a trace of creamy pencil on the waterline to brighten my eyes. A slick of lip balm and light pink gloss finished it all off.