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    Blog every day in May x2: Day 21 and 22

    Day 21 prompt: If you could do anything in the world to make a living what would it be?

    I would be a full-time writer and churn out novel after novel! Maybe someday. :)

    Day 22 prompt: If you could talk to your 13 year old self, what would you say?

    I would tell her that while she feels very alone in the world, some day she’ll get out of her small town and find others who share her interests and she won’t feel like such a weirdo! 13 is a tough age for everyone (well, maybe not if you’re a trust fund baby!) and she shouldn’t feel so down about it, because eventually she’ll be an adult and then she can pursue the things she likes in life.


    Day 21 prompt” A list of links to your favorite posts in your archives 

    I’ll try to divvy it up and categorize a bit.

    My favorite home/lifestyle posts:

    • My mini deck makeover. I put a lot of work into this and I was proud of it! (link
    • My “30 Before 30” list. It was kind of scary to actually write this out. (link)
    • Quite possibly one of the best desserts ever. (link)

    My favorite fashion posts:

    • This orange and green blouse and skirt combo was one of my first forays into really bold color and I’m really happy with this outfit. (link)

    My favorite beauty posts:

    • I admit that I don’t wear makeup every day! It was liberating to type it out. (link)
    • This is one of my favorite spring nail colors ever, and my nails actually don’t look too ragged for a change. (link)
    • My favorite makeup wipe. (link)
    • I had fun trying out this indie organic skincare brand, which I actually discovered thanks to one of my readers! (link
    • Yin Yang nail art! (link)
    • In which I explain what cruelty-free really means for makeup lovers. (link)
    Day 22 prompt: Rant about something. Get up on your soapbox and tell us how you really feel. (a pet peeve, a current event, a controversial topic, something your husband or roommate or neighbor or boss does that really ticks you off)

    Well, let’s jump right in shall we? I can’t stand hypocrites and I can’t stand people who are just plain ignorant. It seems like the two traits often go hand in hand. It’s pretty easy to find and dismiss these traits in someone who doesn’t believe in the same things you do, but when I find people in the causes I support displaying these two traits, it makes me want to rip my hair out. 

    For example, I’m big on animal rights and vegetarianism/veganism, but I would be the first to admit that these communities contain lots of very spiteful and unhelpful people. There’s a reason for all those “how do you spot the vegan at a dinner party” jokes–these people do exist, loudly telling everyone around them how disgusting their dinners are and telling anyone who doesn’t use vegan beauty products that they are akin to a rapist or Hitler. These are the people who mock and deride people with severe food allergies and say that they are using their allergies as an excuse to not go 100% vegan, which is a pretty crappy thing to say if you haven’t lived with allergies yourself, methinks!

    At the same time, I’ve also seen some of these groups holding up people like Mike Tyson as their vegan “role models”. So to be clear, a former rapist who now eats vegan gets a clean slate, but someone who is allergic to soy and nuts and therefore cannot go 100% vegan is akin to a rapist. There is no logic there to me.

    I also understand why so many young women feel such a disconnect from feminism. So many of these so-called “feminists” say they’re all about being equal, but what they really seem to feel is that men are all just stupid dogs who should be shot. That’s not feminism, that’s reverse sexism. They also leave people of color, women of different faiths, and members of the LGBT community on the sidelines.

    Then there’s the constant hypocritical reminder that feminism is about being able to do whatever you want with your body and your life, while also telling women all the things they should not do if they want to be a “real” feminist. For example:

    • The backlash against ridiculous beauty ideals has turned into a backlash against women who enjoy wearing makeup or frilly clothing. These “feminists” love to attack women like Zooey Deschanel for not fitting their ideal of what a woman should look like and how she should behave. Wait, why does that sound familiar?
    • Slut shaming has now turned into virgin shaming! Yay!
    • God forbid you decide you want to have kids and stay home with them of your own volition because, you know, a real feminist would be out there earning her own bacon, not putting in 20-hour days every day for 18+ years to raise a human being.
    • Not an atheist? Well, you’re an idiot.

    I could go on, but you get the point. Somewhere along the line the drive for equality was hijacked, and feminism is in embarrassing disarray thanks to an army of women who don’t even seem to understand the basic tenets of what they purport to stand for.

    Both of these causes are incredibly important to me, but the levels of hypocrisy and non-logic involved can make it really hard for me to identify with either cause. It makes it very hard to reach out to others within these communities and make new friends because you’re trying to figure out whether you believe in the same things or if something really dumb is going to come out of their mouth at any moment. (And yes, I realize this makes me sound like I’m up on my high horse. Oh well, that was the prompt for the day, was it not?)

  • blogs,  Ten on Tuesday

    Ten on Tuesday: 5/21/13

    Celebrity edition! Warning, here be snarkiness.

    1. So I wonder if Kim Kardashian found out that her baby daddy Kanye West was gay before or after they eloped to Paris? (Don’t freak out. Since these headlines came from In Touch Weekly and OK! Magazine respectively, I’m 99% sure they’re both utter nonsense.)

    2. I’ve lost count, but I think the Kanye West rumors mark roughly the fifth of Kim’s “worst fears” that have been immortalized via tabloid headline, with the others being: getting fat, facing ex Kris Humphries in divorce court, getting fatter, and being dumped by her beau for being so fat. Harsh? Yes. But seriously, I have trouble feeling sorry for someone who seeks out the spotlight and then recoils under the harsh glare of rumors and criticism. You wanted it, and now you’ve got it.

    3. On a more serious note: however you feel about Angelina Jolie, I think we can all agree that her decision to have a preventative double mastectomy and remove her ovaries following a positive BRCA gene test was incredibly brave–not to mention her decision to then write a full op-ed for The New York Times, going public with her story. It’s true that the story has opened up tons of debate about gene testing and the cost of health care in the U.S. but it’s a good start toward getting the discussion started and it will also hopefully help destigmatize this sort of preventive measure.

    4. Also, I hope all those fashion bloggers who criticized her Jedi robe getup at the Women in the World Summit back in April feel like crap now, because if you do the math she was undergoing treatment at the time those photos were taken. (Just scroll down for some of the choice comments.) If I was told I had an 87% risk of developing breast cancer in my lifetime I would probably just be hiding in bed in my jammies; I would not be going out of the house for a Starbucks run, much less a global event liberally laced with photographers.

    5. Cara Delevingne is just about the hottest thing to come out of Britain in, well, forever, which is all well and good for her, I guess. Her new lion finger tattoo is seriously badass but all I’ve got to say is, I hope this modeling thing works out for you and you never have to get a real job, because even the fast food joint where I worked in high school wouldn’t hire you with a visible tattoo like that.

    6. If you somehow missed this news in your browser: Maxim magazine apparently chose Miley Cyrus as their “hottest woman alive”. Setting aside how I feel about these “hot 100” lists (stupid for so many reasons)…you cannot convince me that the best possible candidate these guys could possibly come up with for this post was Hannah Frickin’ Montana.

    7. Thank goodness the people of Tumblr are here to put the a——s in their place.

    8. I haven’t heard of Taylor Swift dating anyone new since she broke up with Harry Styles, which was like a whole four months ago. Shouldn’t someone check to see if she’s dead?

    9. So if Beyonce is really preggers with baby #2, do you think we’ll have another round of fake baby bump accusations? And what will the couple name Blue Ivy’s potential younger sibling?

    10. Because I don’t want to leave you guys with nothing but snarky celeb gossip: this week 25-year-old Raha Moharrak became the first Saudi woman to successfully scale Mt. Everest. Her words to mark the momentous occasion? “I really don’t care about being the first…so long as it inspires someone else to be the second.” Hats off to her!

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    Blog every day in May x2: Day 20

    Talk about something that is in the news today.

    Well, it might not be groundbreaking national or world news, but in this house we’re excited for the big announcements tomorrow afternoon about the next generation of XBOX consoles. And when I say “we”, I mean my hubby! We saw a reminder yesterday that there would be a live streaming conference out of Seattle on Tuesday afternoon and with 24 hours to go the hype is certainly at its peak. This is the hot news in the gaming world and all of the gamers I know are going bonkers making bets about the next generation of consoles, what they’ll be called, how much they’ll cost, etc. It’s crazy. Though, I suppose if I was a gamer, I would be going nuts too!

    Get real. Share something you’re struggling with right now. 

    I am really struggling to get back into a habit of working out! Like most people I hate exercise, so I really swing in and out of a routine. I have a yoga mat and weights, a stationery and an outdoor bike, hiking trails nearby, and exercise DVDs covering dance, yoga, and yogalates. So I’m not short on equipment, I’m just short on time and energy. I feel like it’s always a tossup: work out or blog? Work out or take care of my to-do list? Work out or get some sleep?

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    Blog every day in May x2: Day 19

    We all make up traditions that carry over year after year. What is your favorite tradition? Big or small, share the details and why you enjoy it.

    Every year at Christmas time, my husband and I go out shopping together for new two new ornaments for the tree. We each pick one out and write the year on the back with a Sharpie marker, so we have a growing collection of ornaments to mark our years together. Every Christmas when we unpack the tree and the ornaments we can unwrap all of those dated ornaments together and reminisce about what was going on in that year.

    After we buy our ornaments we go out to look at the Christmas lights in town and then we might catch a movie or get dinner, or do some sort of shopping together. Then we go back home and decorate while we listen to Celtic Christmas music!

     Five of your favorite blogs and what you love about them

    I hate to be lazy but because some of these prompts are so redundant I’m going to skip over this one :) I actually just posted a list of some of my favorite blogs here earlier this month, so you can go read that if you’d like.

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    Blog every day in May x2: Day 18

    Who are your best friends and what makes them so special?

    I don’t have a ton of friends really. This is partly my own fault; I actually like being alone and prefer curling up with a book to going out. But I have a couple of people I would call friends:

    –My coworker Missy. I think there are two reasons we get along so well: we both have a sassy sense of humor, and we both speak our minds. She has no problem telling you that something you’re doing is stupid, even if she knows you’ll get mad!

    My husband’s friend Zeb. My husband can’t figure out why I get along with Zeb best out of all of his friends, but I guess it’s because he always says exactly what he’s thinking. I loathe having to guess what someone is thinking and this guy has no filter. None. Zero. Which means some of the stuff he’ll spit out is probably not appropriate for mixed company, but on the other hand you’ll always know exactly where you stand with him. And while this trait can turn some people into jerks, he really is kind to the people he cares about; he just takes a while to show it.

    Zeb also resembles Pusheen the Cat. I’ll let you use your imagination on that one.


    Tell a story from your childhood. Dig deep and try to be descriptive about what you remember and how you felt.

    I don’t think I really have any good childhood stories to relay. I do remember spending the winters building huge snow forts by our driveway; my brother would build a giant fort on one side and I would build a giant fort on the other. (We could get several feet of snow over the course of the winter, so between snowfall and what was plowed up on the banks, we had a lot to work with.) We spent hours making giant complexes out there and settling in to eat icicles to cool down.