I totally ditched my daily blogging for a couple of days so I could sleep and relax after a loooooong week at work. Thus, I have a few days’ worth of Thought Questions to catch up on. I got these from Danielle’s blog Underland to Wonderland, where I came across a post in which she talked about the website Thought Questions and their 365 thought-provoking questions to ask yourself. My friends Katrin, Celeste and Jasmine have also been answering these questions, so be sure to go check out their blogs too!
Day 22: What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?
I would regret not spending enough time with my loved ones, and also, not reading enough. Obviously. :)
Day 23: Are you holding onto something that you need to let go of?
Right now, I would say I need to let go of two things: fear of trying new things, and fear of what other people think of me. I struggle constantly with the fear that I will somehow look stupid in front of other people or they will laugh at me, which makes it hard to do things like address a group (a must with my new job) or try a new activity. I feel paralyzed and I just want to crawl back into my comfortable spot. To push myself, I’ve started making commitments that won’t let me wiggle back out–a public speaking class (yikes!) which should help me with work, or buddying up with someone else to check out an event instead of sitting on the couch with a book, as is my usual habit. They say nothing ever happens when you’re hanging out in your comfort zone and I’m realizing that is true, and trying to react accordingly.
Day 24: When you are 80-years-old, what will matter to you the most?
I think this kind of goes back to to the question from day 22. At the end of the day I think the time you’ve spent with loved ones will matter more than any material possessions or anything like that. So I’ll cherish the time I’ve had with my family and friends, and hopefully, the good health to keep enjoying life with those people as well!
Spending time with your loved ones is definitely very important! You will always remember these things. I know what you mean about the fear of what people might think of you. I often felt like that too but I came to a point where I realized that it does not matter at all what people think of me. I must be happy. It is definitely much more fun. That is great (and scary) about the public speaking class! I always get so nervous!
So very true! Can’t waste time worrying about what other people think. I feel like this class will be scary but also a good thing, and at least it’s over a webcam (since it’s online) instead of in person. That will help a tiny bit!
Hahaha, I already regret not reading enough, I need to get back on that. Post exam season is going to be spent with my nose in my kindle :)
Yay for summer break!
Fear of what other people think of me bothers me the most.. i need to def change that.. thanks fr sharing dear :)
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It’s hard to do, for sure.
I regret not having someone who truly love me, aside from kids and family, that is. And I should probably let go of the thought that I’m a failure when it comes to relationships. I really tried but I think I was too naive in the past and now I’m always doubting myself and others so I sort of just shut down and put higher walls around me because I’ve stopped trusting others and myself, which I know doesn’t do me any good but I can’t seem to let go of it.
When I’m 80, I hope to still be healthy, that my kids can take care of themselves and that they will be looking after me since they’re pretty much all I have.
What people think of me used to matter when I was younger, not so much anymore because I learned that it’s more important to me to just be myself. It doesn’t matter if I look like a fool as long as I’m a fool who has good intentions.
One of the things I’ve really appreciated about getting older is that other people’s opinions matter less and less. But it’s still hard to shed that tendency to doubt oneself. I think it’s a part of being human.